Can You Trust your Partner?

I am not a marriage counselor, but many of my friends often come to me for sharing the problems in their marriage. One of them, a mom with two children, at the the age of 10 and 5. She told me with the deep of sadness, "I really love my husband as much as I trust him. I have never been suspicious on him before, I let him connecting to all his friends, whether men or women. I welcome with all of them. Until one day, without wanting to interfere his privacy, I found short message in his cell phone, certainly from a woman that I knew well. She asked my husband for a secret date. I was so shocked and fell so hurt. Incredible but it was really true. It seemed I got a horrible nightmare".

The story of my friend might be reference for us to expand our perspective regarding marriage relationship and its problems within. The essence of loving relationship is actually mutual trust. Trust from both couple. But we should not suppose that mutual trust is identically with giving big opportunity and freedom to our spouse in connecting many people. It will be too risky. Do not let our partner to hang out freely with all of his (or her) friends.

It takes many times to build mutual trust. And for creating the "qualified" trust we need mutual self-control. Based on that, both couple would realize that they have been in marriage commitment, and that is why they must be on the right track, by staying in fidelity.
In fact, most married people, will be vulnerable to be involved in betrayal whenever there are available big chance to do that. Hence, never let your partner to connect to various people without mutual self-control. In the case of my friend, she never thought that giving big chance for her husband and tolerable with all he did, is the big mistake. It triggers to a betrayal, love affair with other woman.

Trust is like a mirror. once it is broken, you can never look at it again. (Source: Articlesbase.com).

And my friend become a brokenhearted because of her unawareness to "handle" her husband. Pain of betrayal lasts a lifetime, it is too hard to forgive her spouse. And if she finally takes a worst decision, to get divorced, it would be so painful, and the victims of any broken-up relationships are certainly their children.